What is the world coming to?!

You never really know if somebody is really homeless or not! It’s such a shame!

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Why Do Men Think They Are Always Right?!

    MEN! Why do they ALWAYS think they are right about EVERYTHING?! (Not all men, but most LOL) About 7 years ago my fiance (about to be my ex if he doesn’t quit his shit) started a system for our finances. Every Friday he would give me approximately 80% of his paycheck and I was to take care of the bills and finances on time along with making sure we had everything we needed for our family. Now, 7 years later, and he states that I “dole” out the money. WHAT?! Why do men throw a tantrum like a fucking baby and get angry over a system that THEY had come up with from the very beginning?! Why is money always a soft spot for them?! And why do they always think that they are right?

There’s scientific evidence pointing to why men often think they’re always right and it has to do with their testosterone levels, a new study reveals. According to researchers, testosterone, the sex hormone that stimulates the development of male secondary characteristics, is connected with a greater reliance on gut instincts and less self-reflection. In other words, men are more impulsive when making decisions.

If my fiance was in charge of the finances, we would be homeless, living in a cardboard box on the side of the road. Yet he truly believes that he could do ALL that I do to keep this household up and running smoothly, and I truly believe he’s absolutely out of his fucking mind! 

    Studies show that men with excessive amounts of testosterone are quicker to make snap judgments on brain teasers where your initial guess is usually wrong . The testosterone is either inhibiting the process of mentally checking your work or increasing the intuitive feeling that ‘I’m definitely right.’ The study of men and testosterone is one of the largest of its kind and included 243 males who were randomly selected. They received a dose of testosterone gel or placebo gel before being given a cognitive reflection test. Some of the subjects were also given a math-based task for participant engagement, motivation level and basic math skills. Results revealed that the group that received testosterone scored significantly lower than the placebo group. On average, those participants answered 20 percent fewer questions correctly. The group also gave incorrect answers more quickly, and correct answers more slowly than the placebo group. testosterone increasing confidence. The hormone is thought to generally enhance the male drive for social status. It works through confidence enhancement. If a man is more confident, he’ll feel like he’s right and will not have enough self-doubt to correct his mistakes. Thus, men always being right!

    I truly now believe that my fiance is just made up of 95% testosterone and 5% shit. LOL! But seriously, are his constant arguments necessary?! And he blames ALL our problems on me as well, like I’m the cause of everything that goes wrong… Can any other women out there relate to this? If so, please let me know, and also how you deal with your man’s bullshit! I could use the advice/suggestions! Thank you for taking out the time to read this, and remember, treat each other with love! The world needs more of it!

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What Is This That I Am Feeling?

I am a worrisome person, always have been, always will be. But in the recent passing months, I’ve realized that my worrying about the things I can not control are starting to take a toll. I worry about if somebody else is scared, sad, mad, upset in any way, and that is a constant burden on my shoulders to carry around. I can’t be everywhere at the same time to make sure that the people I love (and even sometimes strangers) are happy and content. Now, how do I do that? How do I stop feeling what others are feeling all the time? Can I shut it off? Is it a gift of some sort? Am I a sensitive medium? I just don’t know. I DO KNOW that I indeed do have some psychic abilities, for instance, I’ve been able to see spirits since an extremely young age. I can even channel them, which is so extremely draining and emotionally tiresome that I put that wall half way back up. But my feelings of other’s feelings? What is that and how do I tone it down a bit? 

My grandfather, for example, was transferred from one hospital yesterday to an even further one from my parents, and I cried because I knew he was nervous, scared, and unprepared for the oh so sudden drastic change.

My mother, she was so upset over that transfer, I could feel her tears from 350 miles away, her fear of not seeing him on a daily basis anymore, and her panick and anxiety of the whole situation.

My sister, who didn’t get a chance to go see my grandfather because of a communication misunderstanding when I offered to bring her with me to go and see him. I can still feel her anger and blame that it was all my fault she didn’t get to go. I can practically hear the venomous words spewing from her mouth on how what a horrible and insensitive sister I am. Which was never my intentions what so ever, but if you knew my sister, my words go through deaf ears.

My daughter, whose birthday is today. I let her stay home from school and as usual, my mind goes to “how can I make this a really special day for her”. I NEVER want my children to feel like they are NOT the most important, special, and amazing children in the world to me. 

I NEED to have feelings of serenity. I need to stop worrying. I need to just do the best that I can and hope that it is enough. I HATE confrontation. I hate when someone is upset or angry with me. I always like to keep the peace… But for how long? There is always somebody that isn’t going to be happy with me. Like my Aunt recently told me, “I can’t please everyone, it just doesn’t happen.” I’d like to think that I could, but that is the reality of life.

I’m always going to wear my heart on my sleeve. I am always going to feel what other’s are feeling, and I can’t change that. I can only hope that I can assist in some way to calm their emotions and feelings. That I can help put their minds at ease, in some way, shape, or form. 

I just had that on my mind, and had to get it out there. This blog may not even make any sense to some of you. But those are my thoughts of the morning. A penny for my thoughts, anyone?

Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this. Remember, treat each other with love and kindness, the world needs more of it.

“When Life Happens”

Recently, I’ve had to endure a lot of loss, sadness, and scares along the way.  On October 24, 2017, I lost my grandmother to a vicious monster, pancreatic cancer. It all just seemed like a bad dream. Now, understand, I was incredibly close to my gramma, and this is still raw and painful, the tears still fall as I type this. She tried to fight. She had tried a round of chemo, and all that did was make her sick. Within 9 days, 9 DAYS, after she stopped treatment, heaven had received another angel. I just had a feeling that life changing morning to go see her. She had a hospice bed in her living room and the week before when I went to see her she was actually in good spirits, she actually called me her “precious angel”. So when I went on the morning of October 24th, I expected her to at least be conscious. To my shock, she wasn’t. She was on so much morphine, she just lay there, sleeping. I gave her a kiss and gently rubbed her hair as I sat there next to her, letting her know that I was there and that I loved her very much. My Aunt and I took turns sitting there, talking to her. After about a few hours, she opened her eyes and looked at my Aunt and I ( who were smushing our heads together to get in line of her sight). She tried to say something, I’d like to think it was “I love you”, but she just couldn’t speak. My Aunt said “It’s okay mom, we know, we love you, you can go if you’d like, we’ll be okay”. Within minutes, I saw her take her very last breath on this earth. It was like my entire world had stopped and it would never be the same again. I ran outside, hyperventilating, and just lost my composure. She was no longer in pain and was at peace, but I was just starting to process this. I went back in and kissed every inch of her face, tears falling all over. I knew she wasn’t there, but I NEEDED those kisses. It was one of the hardest days of my life. Now, some say it was a very special moment, to be there for her, to let her know we were there until the end, and I can see that, I understand. But also, that memory will forever make the tears fall like a never-ending river.

A few weeks before that horrific day, my Uncle had passed as well. I wasn’t as close with him because he had lived very far from me, but I loved him, none the less. Then, while my parents were in town to see my gramma, my mother scared the living hell out of me with an emergency appendectomy. I was at the hospital every day with her during that incident. When she was released, she and my father headed back to Cape Cod, where they now live… again (I grew up there, that was my home most of my life, I’ve resided in Pennsylvania now for about 10 years).

Now, it is November, and my mother recently told me that my grandfather was in the hospital because he fell and fractured his hip (personally, I think my GG pushed him, she wants him to come party it up with her in Heaven, where she’s been for 8 years now. I still cry over her passing as well, I suspect I will never stop). He was rushed into ICU as his kidneys are shutting down and he has fluid in and around his lungs and around his heart. So I rushed up to the Cape, it took me from sun up to sun down to get there, as they had to close down the highway we were driving on, but I got there and that’s all that matters. I went to see him in the hospital, sat next to him, held his hand tight, and let him know that I was there and I love him very much. He was in pretty good spirits, and my mother said he was looking better, but in my eyes, he didn’t look as good as he had the last time that I saw him. I was so scared, and am STILL scared, as they have yet to do the surgery because of all the risks. Unfortunately, I had to drive back to PA a day later. I am constantly checking my phone for updates, so terrified that I may lose him too.

Now, I KNOW that Heaven, or “The Other Side”, is a beautiful peaceful place that is full of happiness and wonder, but that doesn’t mean that I’m fine when the people who I love leave me to go there. I know that they can come back to visit, and even communicate, but it’s just not the same. I do, however, find comfort in the fact that I know I can still speak with and communicate with those who have moved on.

So, why am I sharing this with you, you may be thinking. It’s because I wanted to emphasize that in the drop of a hat, life can change. Things can unexpectedly happen, and we as humans are not prepared for it. So I’m challenging you. Every minute of every day be happy and grateful for what you DO have in your life, not what you DON’T have. You never know when your life will have an unexpected “earthquake” that will shake you to your core. Love and be loved. Try not to take anybody or anything for granted. Make the most out of each and every day. And lastly, don’t let petty stuff get in the way of your relationships or your life. Life’s too short. Live it up, everyday. Make someone smile today. Help a person in need today. Fill your life with as much positivity as possible, and just know, even when the road has been bumpy, or you’ve been through a TORNADO of events, be grateful for what you have and what you did have. It gets better with time, but you have to allow yourself the time to get better. Thank you for your time in reading this, and if I helped even just ONE person out there today, well, I’m happy!

I love you, you know who you are! Until we see each other again!

I just turned my life around! Here comes the life I’ve always dreamed of, and you can have you dream life too!

So, how many times have you watched success stories of people getting wealthy only to find out that it was some sort of pyramid scam, or a company takes your money and disappears with it?! Probably almost all of you reading this! Do you know how many times that I’ve been scammed?! I started to give up hope… Who am I kidding, I GAVE up hope. And then my life changed! I put on my big girl panties and went totally out of my element! My life long friend introduced me to MLM! Believe me, I was sceptical at first because to become a marketing affiliate you have to put in a little money and purchase a bundle (but its a win win because you are ordering AMAZING products, for a healthier and cleaner lifestyle!) You become a “lifer” as they call it, and suddenly you see your dreams are coming true and this is IT! The solution that you’ve been waiting for! Now, I’m not going to throw the company’s name right out there, you will have to message me (through Facebook) for the details, but let me tell you something… I NEVER thought that I’d be brave enough to commit to such a business as I get scared of change or anything outside of my element, but I am SURE glad that I did! I believe I was MEANT to follow this path, and all my hardships and tears shed in my life were just me waiting for this mind blowing opportunity to come along! Time to see myself with the financial freedom I’ve always dreamed of!

Now, I’m not saying it will be a “piece of cake” with no work put into it, because like all businesses, you have to be willing to put in the time. But the process… it is a simple process to understand! AND you will LOVE the products, they are amazing with amazing results!

So, if you want to change your life, work from home, ALL from Facebook, let me know! I’ll be waiting for you when your ready!

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Bloggers vs Vloggers

I’ve often wondered, what gets that message that you are trying to say out there into the public more effective, blogging or vlogging? Both are excellent forms of communication throughout the social media world, however, in my opinion, vlogging gets your message out there faster, while sometimes blogging can be more effective in the fact that there is more thought going into it, with really thinking about what you want to say before typing. While vlogging (making a video), there’s always editing and correcting, but sometimes you say what you intend to, but maybe you forget to say something, or it wasnt exactly how you wanted it to turn out. So I’ve done some researching to find out which is more effective! Here I go…

BLOGGING

Blogging is a simple and effective way to keep in touch with your audience and increase traffic to your website. The technology surrounding it is easy to grasp and doesn’t take much time to set up. If you can write and have no difficulty putting your thoughts into words, blogging could be right for you.

All you need is a computer, internet connection, and ideas to get started. Learning about search engine optimisation is also necessary to make sure your posts will actually be found and read. It’s also a good idea to be active on a couple of social media platforms to promote your posts and increase their reach.

Blogs are easy to set up, and there is no specific technical knowledge that is required to do so. If you are using blogging platforms like WordPress, Blogger, Tumblr or Pen.io, they can be activated without any monetary investment. Blogging does not require a vast array of equipment. The only things you might require are a laptop or a desktop and a working Internet connection.  If you can write well, and convey your thoughts through written words – blogging can really work for you. By using techniques like affiliate marketing, or by optimizing your blogs using proper SEO, you can make a living through writing blogs.

Along with having good SEO knowledge, you will have to keep your blog updated on a consistent and regular basis. Once your readers start to enjoy reading your blog, they will want to come back for well-written posts. However, if your blog posts are spread far apart from each other, readers may start to lose interest in reading. Being a blog owner also means that you would have to be able to write in a captivating manner. The issues, themes and topics you write about need to be appealing and substantial for them to get the reader’s attention.

Now, if you are not “technology savy” like me, this may seem a bit overwhelming. Don’t worry, eventually you will understand it!

VLOGGING

Vlogging involves the same process of sharing information, experiences and giving advice, but it is done in a video format as opposed to a written one. Setting up a good vlog is not very difficult if you have the right kind of equipment. Many vloggers set up YouTube accounts, using which they can easily record, edit and publish video content online.

The vlogger need not have professional writing skills, as vlogging is more inclined towards giving the audience a more conversational experience. As long as the topic or issue being discussed is interesting and engaging, vloggers and their respective vlogs can become very successful and popular. 

People who are contemplating about starting a vlog should know that vlogging needs a lot of equipment. To produce a high quality vlog, an advanced video camera that records in high-definition, and professional editing software is a must. All the equipment required for vlogging can cost some extra dollars, which might be a concern if you are not a pro vlogger yet, (but hey, you gotta start out somewhere, right?)

Another disadvantage of a vlog is that it does not provide a chance to edit it after publishing it online. Unlike blogs, which can be edited easily, vlogs have to be either taken down, or re-made to correct the error. Vlogs are also quite time-consuming to make. It can take anywhere from two to four hours to record, edit and publish a vlog.

Vlogging has now become difficult because Google has recently announced that your YouTube channel should have at least 10000 views to show advertisements. In other words, making money from YouTube has now become difficult.
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BOTH modes of communication have pros and cons that need to be considered before making a decision. If you are not a great writer, and find it easier instead to speak to people – vlogs might be your forte. However, if you are a person who expresses themselves better with written words, blogs might just be the thing for you.

Of course, you could run a vlog parallel to a blog. This makes it easier to attract more readers and viewers, and to get their ideas across through a medium of their choice.

The fact remains: many marketers live in a world of either/or. Relatively few bloggers effectively harness the power of video marketing. On the flip side, many vloggers and YouTubers waste their SEO and revenue potential by not having a blog. Ideally, some creativity will allow you to strengthen your existing content strategy with a mixture of the text and videos.

To take advantage of all the benefits of vlogging and blogging, you can host a vlog and a blog. It’s easy to type transcripts of all your videos so that people who have poor hearing or who just don’t like videos can enjoy your content. You can also add short, entertaining videos to your blog to keep people wanting more. Blogs and vlogs are both great ways for you to make money and promote your business or niche in some way!

 

There you have it! The pro’s and con’s, now you decide which is the right one for you, and GO FOR IT!

 

 

Struggling with YouTube Subs

I can’t understand how so much work can be put into a YouTube site and then boom… The numbers of subs just stop. I’ve been promoting, uploading regularly, trying to get the word out, but it doesn’t seem to be working. Now. I know I’m not tech savvy, but I try my best and learn as I go. Some videos get 40 views, some get 800, and one is almost at 11k views! So, why not the subscribers? Someone must know the secret, I just can’t figure it out, I guess. But no matter what, I’m going to keep taking videos and keep uploading, because at the end of the day, it makes me happy. It’s therapeutic to me, and fun for the family. I enjoy it so if it makes me happy, that’s what I’m going to do. Wouldn’t you? I’d love to hear your thoughts and opinions on the matter, so please, don’t be shy! Remember, treat each other with love!

Why is it That Those On YouTube With The Dumbest Videos Get The Most Subscribers?

Screenshot 2017-02-27 at 9.47.38 AM.png     As I was randomly scrolling through the internet and YouTube I came across this video of a highly overweight girl showing people how to LITERALLY eat an Oreo cookie, “dunk, twirl, bite”. How in Gods name did over 8K people actually LIKE that video and Subscribe?! I just don’t understand it! My YouTube videos (YouTube name: Rayne Evans) may not have the best editing job, but there is real content, real fun, and real LIFE! Now, I’m not saying that I should be famous or anything, but I wouldn’t even DREAM of creating a video on “How to eat a snack”, that should already be known how to do, really, who needs instructions? Does a package of cookies come with an insert with directions on them? No. It’s pretty self explanatory.  So I’ve been boggling my mind trying to figure out why people actually LIKE that?! Like the viral video “Woman sitting on a toilet, now flush”! REALLY?! C’mon people! REALLY?!

YouTube offers a fantastic opportunity to get creative with videos and have fun, make people laugh, and offer something great to the world. I personally think that people should reevaluate who they are subrcribing to (and ultimately paying them millions in the process for doing absolutely NOTHING on video AKA “Oreo Girl”). I think that YouTube should be vlogging (like reality tv), entertaining people, and making them laugh, not cringe! People should have fun recording, it should be something they do for themselves, NOT for fame or money. I’m not trying to offend anybody, please don’t take this the wrong way, I just think that if you are going to subscribe to somebody’s channel, make sure you enjoy their videos, and somehow, someway, it brightens up YOUR day watching it!

Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this, I just had to vent a bit and get this off my chest. “Everything Happens For A Reason”. Until next time, treat each other with love and respect! Bye guys!

What is the Significance of Valentine’s Day

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Every February 14, across the United States and in other places around the world, candy, flowers, card, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this St. Valentine , and where did these traditions come from? 

The history of Valentine’s Day–and the story of its patron saint–is shrouded in mystery. We do know that February has long been celebrated as a month of romance, and that St. Valentine’s Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. But who was Saint Valentine, and how did he become associated with this ancient rite?

“Love yourself, It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside out”
“Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own”
“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”

 “A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others.”

 

“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”

 

“I’d rather have roses on my table than diamonds on my neck.”

 

“Roses are Red,
Violets are Blue,
I’ve never met anyone as beautiful as you.”

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A Shakespeare sonnet:
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no; it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests, and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

Remember, Valentine’s day is not only for your true love, it is also for your family, friends, and loved ones. Remember, spread the love, love like you’ve never loved before, and make each and every moment count!

Until next time, be good to one another!

I Remember

“I remember

being a little girl

 

I remember

when life was so innocent

 

I remember

going to Disney with my grandparents

 

I remember

summer vacations with the family

 

I remember

my first love

 

I remember

my first heartbreak

 

I remember

the birth of my daughters

 

I remember

feeling utter bliss

 

I remember

the night my baby stopped breathing and was rushed to the hospital

 

I remember

feeling utter fear

 

I remember

all of life’s ups and downs

 

I remember

all of the laughs and tears

 

But I’m so glad that I remember…”

 

Thank you for the inspiration for this, you know who you are, I love you!

 

Until next time, love like you’ve never loved before, treat others like you’d want to be treated, and remember, “Everything happens for a reason”!